Ups and downs are part of our work life and personal life. We all make mistakes at work, lose a client, or screw up an order. This might create havoc and lead to emotional roller coaster affecting our thought process and actions.
Our emotional body comprises of past, present, and future emotion experiences. It’s the way we perceive situations facilitates emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt, resentment, jealousy, and shame. During an experience, it generates feelings that are associated with past similar experiences, and we develop a label to identify the emotion. Emotions and memories are categorized and stored, and they influence how we respond to experiences in the moment and in future.
A person with overwhelming stress will, at some point, experience physical symptoms because of the mind-body connection. This is why it is imperative to develop emotional intelligence and to adopt practices to have a more positive outlook on life, both mentally and emotionally for overall growth.
Successful women don’t let their emotions dictate their behavior. Successful women keep their emotions in check in order to enhance their career and personality.
Top practices emotionally balanced women incorporate in their lives:
Emotionally balanced women set aside a reflection period for even a few minutes at end of the day that gives them clarity on their interactions, behaviors and decisions which they have made, which will allows them to evaluate strengths and weaknesses. This practice helps you be in check by giving space to modify or plan in future.
Honest with oneself
Emotional intelligence is the ability to accurately identify the feelings and emotions and then put them to use. When you’re interacting with someone, asking yourself as to ‘what am I feeling right now? What emotions is this person displaying? Begin this practice by reflecting on one conversation every day and journal the answers to form a habit.
Emotionally wealthy women are human; they are real. They cry when they need to, but they never give up. Emotionally wealthy women delve deeply into themselves to grow in all the ways life calls them to. They view each challenge they face as a growth opportunity, welcome criticisms and feedback. Distress tolerance refers to enduring and accepting discomfort, and learning to bear pain skillfully. Distress tolerance enhances coping capacity by strengthening resiliency—the ability to adjust to change.
This ability to non-judgmentally accept both oneself and the current situation in spite of the emotional and/or physical pain it may bring. This way becoming resilient is possible only by timely reflection and processing the emotions. On the other hand if the negative feedbacks and failures are blocked and pushed down to maintain the outer persona they can become detrimental and are manifested in different ways hindering our future growth.
Starting day with an exercise and a relaxation routine helps in kick staring their day. So powering through a good workout releases your endorphins, enhances ones mood and puts you in an emotional mindset to take on any challenge you want to encounter.
Emotionally wealthy women make a list of all the things that you love about you. Include things that aren’t perfect as well as the things that you consider your best attributes. This helps them learn to feel those things and boost their self-confidence by doing so. Emotionally balanced women have compassion for who they are right now. They don’t wait to be perfect before they love themselves.
Ask for help
We all have deep dark secrets that we keep locked inside. Just remember that almost anyone can relate to insecurities, pain, guilt, suffering and shame. If you feel uncomfortable jumping into the emotional realm, there are so many resources to help with that. Emotionally wealthy women do not hesitate to seek help when in need. Even if you don’t have a friend or family member you feel comfortable enough with to confide in, there are many skilled therapists who can help be a support to enable.
Do you let stress over-ride your emotions, or keep calm and tackle it? Here's how emotionally balanced women don't let feelings dictate their behavior
By: Inchara Shivaraam